Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the Bottom - the actions of the bottom partner, aimed at controlling the behavior of his Top. These actions can be caused by various reasons: the desire to get extra attention, to achieve action or sex, as well as jealousy, the desire to change the format of relations in a pair, and so on. Classic manifestation of control from below is provocation of the Top by the masochist for the punishment (deliberate violation of his prohibitions, disobedience, insolence). This phenomenon in the environment of subject players got a special name SAM (which means "smart-ass masochist"). Other methods for topping from the bottom can be used to: speculation on guilt, threat of leaving, and others. If the bottom misuses the location of the Top to get the most pleasure for himself, this reduces the Top to the "device" position and is destructive for the pair. Therefore, in the BDSM environment, this behavior of the lower ones is not approved, as is its encouragement on the part of the Top. The methods of counteraction to this phenomenon are developed, which do not actually differ from the ways of excluding manipulation in ordinary relations. For example, for the elimination of SAM, the interaction is periodically discussed, the lower one is asked to ask about the action, when such a need arises, and when provoking punishment, on the contrary, he is not flogged, but deprived of attention.

It is necessary to distinguish the relationship in pairs from the topping from the bottom, where both partners like the "subjugation" and "coercion" of the by the Top of the bottom, and all sorts of provocations can enter the game conditions and give pleasure to both.